A woman living with AuDHD—a term used to describe the co-occurrence of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)—is shedding light on the unique experiences tied to this dual diagnosis.
Laurie Faulkner, a TikTok creator known online as @lauriefaulkner, recently posted a video that resonated with thousands by clearly outlining eight key signs that may suggest someone has AuDHD.
Describing herself as an “ADHD gal, trying to help you with yours,” Faulkner shares personal observations that reflect the complex interaction between autism and ADHD, which often coexist but are frequently misunderstood when they do.
1. Feeling Like You Have “Two Halves”
Faulkner explains that individuals with AuDHD might feel split between two opposing sides: one that is “quiet, shy, and rule-abiding,” and another that is “rule-breaking, outgoing, and extroverted.” This internal conflict often leaves one part dissatisfied when the other takes over.
2. Identifying as an “Extroverted Introvert”
This duality may also surface in the language people use to describe themselves. According to Faulkner, calling oneself an “extroverted introvert” could hint at the inner contradictions that many with AuDHD navigate daily.
3. Difficulty with Decision-Making
Those with AuDHD often experience executive function challenges. Faulkner describes how planning tasks can become overwhelming, leading to a sense of paralysis and lingering guilt.
4. Complex Social Perception
While people with AuDHD might see themselves as socially awkward or clumsy, they often possess deep empathy and a sharp sensitivity to others’ emotions. This contrast can make social interactions both deeply meaningful and mentally exhausting.
5. Aversion to Change—but Ever-Changing Personality
Faulkner notes a paradox: although change can be distressing, people with AuDHD may adapt their personality to match the people around them. This chameleon-like behavior may provide short-term social comfort but lead to long-term identity confusion.
6. Fluctuating Symptoms from Day to Day
Some days, autistic traits dominate; on others, ADHD is more pronounced. Faulkner explains this leads to being perceived as “not enough” on autism-driven days and “too much” when ADHD traits are more visible.
7. Overstimulation at Social Events
Social settings can trigger extremes: either feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to engage or talking to everyone and oversharing—only to later experience panic and regret.
8. Sensitivity to Noise—With Exceptions
Faulkner describes how people with AuDHD may dislike loud environments unless the noise is familiar or controllable, such as a favorite song played at a chosen volume.
Public Reaction and Reflections on Diagnosis
Faulkner’s video sparked emotional reactions online. One commenter wrote, “So many undiagnosed adults because of the stigma when we grew up. We don’t know ourselves because it was hushed. Let’s make a future where our children don’t go through the same self-discoveries.” Another simply said, “I feel so seen.”
Clinical Insights: What the NHS Says
According to the UK’s National Health Service (NHS), autism in adults may present as:
- Difficulty understanding others’ emotions
- Anxiety in social settings
- Preference for solitude
- Blunt or seemingly rude communication
- Literal thinking
- Strong need for routine
Meanwhile, common ADHD symptoms in adults include:
- Frequent distraction and forgetfulness
- Poor time management
- Trouble finishing tasks
- Losing items often
- Excessive talking or impulsivity
- Acting without thinking
Faulkner’s insights help bridge clinical definitions with lived experience, encouraging greater understanding of how AuDHD presents in everyday life—especially among adults who may have gone undiagnosed for years.
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