Katherine Ryan has spoken candidly about her marriage, cosmetic surgery choices and parenting boundaries, revealing intimate details about her sex life with husband Bobby Kootstra and her firm stance on beauty procedures for her teenage daughter.
The 42-year-old comedian and podcaster told The Times that she and Kootstra, also 42, make a conscious effort to prioritise intimacy despite their busy lives as parents of four. Ryan said their preferred time for sex is in the morning rather than at night.
“We still have a sex life. I don’t know when normal people have sex, but we usually try to fit it in at 10am,” she said. “I don’t know who’s having sex at night. Aren’t they sleepy?”
Ryan also reflected on her experience with cosmetic surgery, describing the breast implants she had at 21 as one of the best decisions she ever made.
“I had breast implants when I was 21 – it was one of the best decisions I ever made,” she said.
However, the comedian added that she plans to have them removed once she finishes breastfeeding her youngest child.
“I’m probably going to get those taken out when I’m done breastfeeding because breast implants are emblematic of the Noughties. No boobs is ‘it’ now,” she explained.
While open about her own procedures, Ryan said she believes celebrities should be more transparent about cosmetic enhancements rather than pretending their appearance changes are down to lifestyle habits alone.
“I would be, rather than pretend that I had just started sleeping better,” she said. “It would save people thinking, ‘Do I need to dunk my face in ice water?’ No, she’s had a facelift.”
Despite her personal history with cosmetic surgery, Ryan has drawn a clear line when it comes to her 16-year-old daughter, Violet. The teenager has said she would “definitely have lip filler” when she turns 18, but her mother is strongly opposed to the idea for now.
Ryan noted that the law is currently on her side, as it is illegal in England to administer Botox or dermal fillers for cosmetic purposes to anyone under 18.
“I tell 16-year-olds what my mum told me: you think you won’t care what you look like when you’re 40 because that’s basically the grave – but you do still care,” Ryan said. “And you need to make decisions at 16 for the rest of your life.”
The Canadian-born star, who has previously spoken about regretting a decade-long relationship with dermal filler, stressed the importance of thoughtful, long-term decision-making when it comes to appearance and self-image.
Her comments come amid a broader cultural shift around cosmetic surgery. Stephan Hannan, Clinical Services Director at The Harley Medical Group, said breast augmentation remains one of the most sought-after procedures and has become increasingly mainstream in recent years.
“This shift is largely driven by increased visibility, with celebrities, influencers and the wider public sharing their surgical experiences more openly,” he said. “By discussing procedures publicly and documenting their journeys on social media, much of the stigma that once surrounded cosmetic surgery has been reduced.”
Hannan added that responsible care remains essential, noting that patients should be supported in making decisions that are medically sound, psychologically healthy and reflective of their own aspirations rather than external pressure.
For Ryan, that philosophy extends beyond her own body to her role as a mother — balancing openness about cosmetic choices with firm boundaries for her children as they navigate their formative years.
